…It all adds up to a pretty compelling indictment of the “he’ll keep striving until he earns her love” romance trope that is still incredibly common in stories two hundred years later. We see how uncomfortable everyone’s attitudes make Fanny, and how trapped she feels by Henry’s proposal — she cannot accept it, but refusal is unacceptable, and nobody pays any attention to her actual feelings. Every moment of kindness from Henry is manipulation. Everyone, including the reader, expects the story to go a certain way, to follow the tropes and the idea that a man can always earn a specific woman’s love if he tries hard enough… and everyone is proved utterly wrong by the novel’s conclusion."
i think my favorite part of the northanger abbey tag is folks quoting isabella thorpe about friendship